Tag: What is your why?

What would your perfect day look like

A day… in your perfect life. What lifestyle would you choose if you could?

If someone said to you right now, you could choose whatever lifestyle you wanted… what would it be? Remember funds aren’t a problem… think about it.

Many of us dream of a different lifestyle and it means different things to different people, not everyone wants to sit on a beach drinking cocktails.

This is an example of a ‘perfect day’, for someone… write down your perfect day.

Maybe you love to cook, and you dream about having your own cooking show, your own recipe books, you would love the Celebrity Cook lifestyle. You may feel there’s a gap in the market for what you want to do, you know how to add another dimension to the experience.

Perhaps you want to get back to basics, bring back good basic food, real food, organic food, picked fresh.You dream about preparing that food in an old-world farmhouse kitchen.

A kitchen you designed yourself.  You see yourself standing at your huge timber top bench, running your fingers along the smooth surface while looking at the vegetable patch, brimming with organic vegetables at the end of the garden.

On the window sills are pots bursting with herbs, voluptuously bubbling over with growth, full of fragrance and flavour, patiently waiting for your next delectable recipe to burst to life.

With the camera rolling, you open the back door and brush past the herbs, the smell of mint fills the morning air, reminding you of Sunday Roasts and mint sauce.

The memory is fleeting because now, you have so much more to offer in your arsenal, using this fragrance herb.

 You speak of it briefly, while strolling along the garden path to the chicken pen.

The free-range chickens are happy to see you, they run to meet you and only stop when they see the camera. The only thing you are going to take away from them is their eggs, not their life and not these little hens, you turn to the camera and say so with a little chuckle.

Your attention now turns to the vegetable patch.

The tomatoes vine is heavy with fruit, and you carefully examine the fruit before placing it in your produce basket alongside the multicoloured eggs shells, which indicates the health and free-range nature of your wards. (whom you have named)

You refer to your gardener by name and will soon have a show featuring him and his secrets of planting tomatoes and not only cultivating tomatoes but producing an abundant crop.

Some of your audience only watch you because of the gems of information you add about your garden. You appeal to many different people, they all love watching you.

With the camera following close behind, you return to the colonial style glass door to the kitchen, before opening it, you stop momentarily and pick some basil, the air fills with that intoxicating fragrance that only lovers of Italian food relate too. You take a deep breath and look right into the camera and captivate your audience with the brief history of the herb, with the addition of some tantalizing story.

It’s time now for your encore performance, and it is a performance, you have a reputation for being eccentric and everyone loves you for it.

It’s not my dream, not my scene, although I do like the kitchen and the herbs on the sill, the rest not my dream. The point is someone is dreaming it and not doing it. Making our dreams a reality isn’t easy, it takes commitment, inspiration and hard work in some form, and belief that we can succeed.

How would I even start if I wanted this ‘perfect day’ lifestyle?

A few tips & ideas to think about…

Firstly, you would have to develop you, who you are, being you not someone else. Getting comfortable in front of the camera is a must, you don’t need fancy equipment you can use your smart phone and a stand- start recording

  • Develop your online personality and create a YouTube Channel
  • Love everything food, and organic produce. This would mean research and the best part is… all that you ever would need to know is already out there.
  • An Instagram feed featuring your creations
  • Face Book Page
  • Video of you preparing food and visiting the Farmers Market
  • A blog with your thoughts and perhaps an eBook, featuring your favourite 5 recipes
  • Pinterest with photos of your creations
  • Build your following

There are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we discover why…  ~ William Barclay ~

What is the dream/why killer?

The dream killer or why killer quite often is not only time but finances, not having enough to pursue your dream. You have commitments and can’t chase your deep-seated whys that you are discovering. It will have to wait till you have retired, or the children leave home and start their own lives.

What if I told you there is a way to educate yourself and start to follow your dreams. Your whys, no matter what they are. To prepare yourself for the journey and not only prepare yourself, to clarify whether this is your dream. To find fulfillment in life that’s not some whim or fleeting idea. I’m doing it right now, I’m clarifying my dream, my why by connecting with people who also are on the same path.


What is your why

What is your purpose

What is your why?

Children ask this question constantly and can pester parents relentlessly for the answers.

Somewhere along life’s path we’ve lost that curiosity….

I can remember when my youngest son Benny was four years of age, he would chatter incessantly, and finally I would have to ask him to be quiet… just for a little while please, unfortunately it only lasted for a moment and he was off again.

This quote below is very powerful, if we don’t discover why, our purpose, our passion, our self, we just go through life drifting from one day to the next, without inspiration and finally when we do question our why, decades have flown by.

There are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we discover why…
~William Barclay~

What does it mean, NOT knowing your why?

It can mean you stay in a career/job that you hate, and when Sunday afternoon rolls around (or whatever day is the start of the your working week) you have that same sinking feeling you felt when you had to go to school on Monday morning. That’s no way to live…you feel stuck and trapped.

Don’t confuse ‘why’ with responsibility- for example, I must pay the bills and feed my family… that is MY why! you may say. No… that’s not what we are talking about here.
Simply knowing your why is the difference between living a full life or just existing… going through the motions of day to day living, because you haven’t worked out your ‘why’. Suddenly retirement is upon you!

A man (or woman) without a goal, (why, purpose or passion) is like a ship without a rudder ~Thomas Carlyle~

Attempting to navigate through life’s turbulent waters today, when you don’t know your ‘why’ can be scary, and gut wrenching… from a day to day perspective.

How can I find my why?

Life today can suck up our time, so much so, that we drift from day to day and year to year mechanically, until one day we come to the realization of wondering, is it all worth it? We are tired, worn-out and exasperated because we don’t know what our ‘why’ is.

Maybe our why is buried so deep inside us, we don’t believe we have one. Perhaps we need to quiet our minds for a while, to access it.

Our minds are rarely still these days, we are bombarded constantly by noise from every possible direction.
Your why is connected to your purpose, happiness, passion and self-worth, it’s about what resonates with you at a deep level, our core beliefs are also tied up with our why.
Knowing your why isn’t the new buzz word, decades ago they called it ‘finding yourself’.

What is your purpose?One way to find your why

One popular method of uncovering your why, is going back to when you were a child, and remembering what interested you, what thrilled you, what made your heart sing. What did you dream about becoming? Sometimes clues can be revealed.

Personally, I believe this is one of the purest ways of rediscovering your why. Remember this was before your mind was cluttered with the stresses of life and adult opinions, when it was okay to dream outrageous dreams, and ideas…. and the only attention you received was a smile, a pat on the head and chuckle from your parents.

Inwardly they were thinking… if only you could stay a child forever and I could protect you from this cruel world. Or you may have ignited a feeling in your parents they had when they were children… momentarily taking them back to their dreams.

Let me use myself has an example, when I was a child I use to love going into the garden and talking to the plants, my father to this day still refers to my behavior.

  •  I love the garden and have hundreds of pot plants.
  • Every night I would make up stories to tell my older sister, so she could fall asleep
  • Today, I’m an author of children’s books.
  • I can remember hiking up the local foothills and mountains and feeling the green springy short soft grass beneath my feet, and the tall rust coloured bracken {a type of large fern} seemingly towering above me.
  • Today, I have a site called Walking the Gold Coast, still love to walk.

These memories are vivid and for many years they were just memories in childhood, until I started to explore them.

There is a bridge to adulthood?

Yes…. there is a bridge. I use a pseudonym, Lillian Bell and have a website called Walking the Gold Coast. It took decades to come back and explore what I really loved in life.
Which brings me back to the ‘Why’… many of us cannot explore our why, because we can’t do anything about it anyway, we haven’t the time, or freedom to indulge ourselves – you must work or spend 60 or 70 hours in business just to keep afloat these days.

There we have it! We don’t know our why because living is taking up all our time…

If only there was a way where we could get ourselves in a position, where we could work hard for a relatively short time, compared to a whole lifetime, and have the freedom to explore our dreams, passions and find our purpose.

There is an opportunity available, a path that others have followed and modeled… which has allowed them to gain not only freedom to explore their purpose, or why in life, but to connect to a community of like-minded people.

You have that same opportunity extended to you now, I’m exploring it because I want to keep doing the things I love, and continue the lifestyle that supports it. I want to keep doing my ‘why’… the things that make my heart sing, but like you I have to live and pay the bills etc.

Check out the seven-day video series and perhaps it will help you find out… What is your why?