Recently I was walking along my local beach and I saw a woman with a baby in a pram bend down, and picked something up from the sand, and place it back in the sea. As I walked past I said, “Was it a small crab? No… she said, a little fish stranded on the beach.” I continued walking and glanced back to see her walk back down to the sea, and place something else into the water. It got me thinking about feeling stranded or stuck…
Usually in the marine world anything washed up or stranded on the beach, is there for a reason, and although we may attempt to rescue the poor creature, eventually it ends up stranded further along the beach.
It’s a bit like life, we sometimes feel stranded or stuck or even isolated. Although surrounded by people and activities and responsibilities, we don’t feel part of what’s going on.
It’s my opinion, based on decades of life… that’s where we are supposed to be. Stuck… because we are not ready to move forward. Stranded because we are not ready to be thrown back into the sea of action. Isolated because we are still processing new ideas or processing different ways of thinking … hopefully it will only be for a short while. We are where we need to be now…
A change of attitude and action can seem to happen almost overnight. But I don’t believe this is strictly true, many times its proceeded by a period of growth and not always pleasant. Life isn’t filled with rainbows and lollipops. At times we need to change our thinking and thought patterns, this takes time and can be mentally painful.
“Live and love yourself forever, because we are all stuck with what we are.”
~ M.F Moonzajer ~
For example, if you must decide about something, you may resist the change even though you know it’s inevitable. Resistance is not necessarily being stubborn. For whatever reason you are not ready to move forward, this process can’t be hurried. Unless you are standing on the edge of a cliff and someone is chasing you with an ax, and the only way to escape is by jumping in the sea. If you resist here, you may end up on the CI (Criminal Investigation) channel.
“As long as you’re moving, it’s easier to steer.”
I look over the years and see a pattern of behaviour in myself, a pattern of cycles starting from my youth, to this very moment in time. We can be too hard on ourselves during these periods of change and beat ourselves up for not moving forward, or taking ‘massive action’ a popular phase that is frequently used.
A break through usually happens when you have reached your capacity.
Take care and be kind to yourself, you will become unstuck in due course.
Life is a cycle, which includes your emotions.
“It comes and goes in waves, it always does, it always does. And carries us away.” Dean Lewis -Waves lyrics
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